Culturally we get the message that we should always be moving forward. It would be great if life really worked that way! Sometimes it does, but sometimes it's two steps forward and one step back. This can happen if we try something new only to find out that it's not a good solution and we must regroup. It's a little bit trickier if we learn that something we've committed to for a length of time is ultimately not good for us. This can be something physical like an activity, a food, or a food group. Or, it can be a relationship such as with a doctor.
It can happen that someone we really like and feel good about seeing just isn't helping us in the long term. Despite best intentions, the advice given is getting us nowhere and it's time to see someone new with a fresh perspective. It can be troubling that we've been spinning our wheels in a pretty important area. So, it can help to look on the bright side.
Whether we're talking about an activity, a food, a relationship, or anything else, there is always a bright side. That bright side is comprised of everything we've learned, as well as the positives along the way. Eliminating options frees us to pursue better ones. We now have data indicating something is unproductive and we never have to pursue it again. In the meantime, we've had experiences with others who have enriched our lives. Just because someone doesn't have all the answers, doesn't mean they contributed nothing and doesn't mean we have to write off the positives of the relationship. We are shifting our course without regretting the course we've taken to date.
Sure it can be frustrating to feel we've taken two steps back, but if we see the positives, we will see that we really are further along our path. Insight allows us to turn our frowns upside down.
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